To do or not to do : The offspring dilemma !

Dedicated to all the women who partnered this transition from a Men to a Dads ! Ok, the men too :)

To do or not to do ! 

The fundamental dilemma for most couples in a male dominated society starts post the honeymoon phase in a marriage (3< x >36 months) ie, do we ? do we ? we do... :0 . This is a deja vu situation similar to the day they considered marriage.  For the ones who decided to give it shot in the first three months, well you guys did wasted some good time together and surely did not contribute to the coffers of Durex. The ones who overshot this my blog post is worth a read. This is merely a thought process and i am open for some fair bit of criticism.  However the crux of matter is relevant.

Men consider committing to an offspring normally after they experience stable career trajectories and feel mature enough to understand the responsibilities associated with the kid. Well the truth more often than not is otherwise and hence this blog post! About the women ... i think most of them think about the babies from the day they agree to Ken being Barbies boyfriend. Thinking of which leads me to wonder that historically women settle down with a man based on his ability to protect and nurture "her" offspring's  The ones who have chosen to consider brawn alone end up like Demi Moore.

Do Men really settle down ? When does the joy of the next high paying higher risk job seem less tempting ? When do they stop ogling at the photo-shopped and botoxed women on TV with ever increasing silicone's ! Well my rough guess would be around the time they touch 50 ie, when they realize the misplaced priority on wealth alone and would lie to utilize their last few year of performance in their final years of productivity. Micheal Douglas would be an appropriate example. Closer home would be the Dabang fool. They also form the right partner for females, considering my historic statement. ( Is this the reason why most girls date their seniors in school or the term Sugar daddy is not so disrespectful anymore ?)

The rest try their luck somewhere in between, mostly dictated by the biological limit of the female partner. With education and income levels increasing, logically the decision should be sooner than later. However the trend indicates otherwise. A sense of insecurity gets associated with couples postponing this decision. This insecurity is normally not about the greed for wealth or comfort, it might be on the well being of relationship itself. This may not be applicable to all, but i believe it might cover a large portion including the educated ones reading this blog. 

Having a offspring is not a simple process like the bee and the flower story. The sperm count and the fertility issues do regulate the process to an extent unimaginable to most single adults. The doc reasons stress, alcoholism, Pollution in males and the gyneac would give more than a dozen reasons. However from experience the primary reason most docs agree in private is that "they did not try when they should have". The mushrooming of fertility clinics and fertility centers are a direct result of the point above. Considering that breast feeding is proven protection against breast cancer, the soon to be No.1 killer worldwide; Breastfeeding at the right age, it seems more beneficial. Ok the women who did not know this, consult your gyneac and for men please note that cancer still is mostly incurable and this one is known to strike as early as 35 !  

The amount of issues that the would be parents face in the 9 months of pregnancy is more that they bargained for. Not every foetus  sees the light of the day and the number of miscarriages seem ever increasing. Adding the amount of medically assisted abortions due to prediction of a unhealthy baby, i believe we look at a very low success rate for the first trials.   

Rapid rise in careers normally point to excess of greed and not necessarily happiness in personal life. The joy of having a kid is next to none. Insecurity in relationship stems from wrong choice of partners. I believe most mistakes can be mended and this one is a rather simpler one. Hence my advice is a repetition of what pappu's grandfather stated in the 50's "Kal kare so aaj kar, aaj karo so ab kar". I believe even the Vatican supports me on this one :) 

Leaving this blog unfinished to  incorporate your comments !

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Doc Bee

Travel Wisdom !

42 countries and over a 1000 flights wise....

I recently shared one of the social media forwards about an air france review http://jayharishshah.blogspot.in/.  The blog soon went viral and i guess i played a small part in it ie, a significant amount of my friends shared and forwarded the same. Looking at the timid Air France reply i now firmly believe pen is mightier than the sword !

The best airlines to fy economy for long distances are as below

a) Cathay Pacific

b) Qatar

b) Emirates

d) Etihaad

e) Sri Lankan

f) Aero Mexico

g) Thai Airlines

h) Ethiopian

i) Kenyan

j) Singapore Airlines

k) Malaysian

If you fly any of the above you can be sure that incase of a layover, you shall be accommodated in a hotel and Indian passports do not create an hassle. Singapore and Malaysian airports do ensure that a stopover is not such a boring affair.

I guess nobody bothers to fly the multiple airlines in Philippines, Indonesia, Vietnam, Cambodia, Uzbekistan, Azerbaijan and Russia. I do not of know anybody who has flown and is alive to help me for this review. :p

If your passport contains a valid long term  US visa you can add the following airlines in the list but the comfort levels in the descending order

l) Air Nippon

m) Korean Air

n) Turkish Airlines

o) Egypt Air / Gulf Air / Oman Air

p) All the North /  South American Airlines

If you have a valid UK / schengen visa

q) Lufthansa / Swiss / Austrian

r) SAS

s) KLM

t) Brussels

u) British Airways

v) Finn Air

w) South African

If your passport is blank with nothing more than the visa for your destination, please fly Air India. Its easier to nail these guys in India incase they screw up :))

As a personal advice never ever even attempt experimenting these airlines

x) Air France / Chinese Airlines

y) Aeroflot / Pakistan International Airlines / El Israel

z) Saudia

Well with Air France you had a large reasonably clean, non stinking airport airport at CDG with people who respond atleast to social media for the fear of EU consumer courts. With Saudia ... I rest my case.

My ratings if taken seriously would help some souls escape the hassles of international travel.

With Business/  First class, you can be rest assured to be pampered everywhere other than Saudia and saudi airports.

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Sage Bee

Relationships Decoded !

Ok.... I may not be the first one to understand this ... but i guess i am the first one to publish this !

I always wondered why the first child is closer to the Mother and second to the father.With my little experience i think i decoded this mystery.

Well .. the first one has the mother to thank for, and after the first one, anything extra has only the father to thank for these days !!!!

My coded message would be understood by the couples with children only. For others, i do not want to reveal it too soon :)

Hehe,

Einstein Bee.


P.S : Ni, if you are reading this, please reconsider my request!  I promise i shall be the sole incharge of the huggies duty and any other slave activities :D

Damsel and Shrek !

My parents had given up on my luck with opposite sex and decided it was time that i needed some help. Somewhere across the globe in London a perky bird partied unaware of where her future would lead her.


I met "Ni" on a sunny morning in April'08. Both said yes in the same evening ... I guess it was more logical than love ie, Religion, Education, DNA etc.  I personally do not think that i made an impression on her during our mini date ... i think i just got lucky ! :)

Love blossomed a couple of days later over hundreds of SMS's and some stolen poetry. I was madly in love with her within a week and would blush pink which showed even on my dark skin. The courtship days were one of the most beautiful phase in my life. I got married at the age of 24 .. yes child marriage according to some of my friends !

The marriage meant we spent almost the entire time together. Ni adjusting to sangli was more challenging than me to the saas bahu serials. However life moved on and we adjusted quite well and had a little monster of our own!


Thinking about the sacrifices she made to ensure i stayed sane speaks volumes of her patience and understanding. She was my guide and co partner while i evolved from a crazy fat tadpole to a level headed middle aged not so fat frog.

She became the base pilot to this unguided drone which hovered around the skies from America to Africa. She was supposed to be my responsibility but i think the opposite is more true. She not only made me calm down but also taught me life lessons more valuable than my professional education. My life is now more peaceful, happier and disciplined all thanks to this damsel in my life. I think i am a better Son & a Father all thanks to her. I am sorry  could not work on my laziness ... i think we shall leave some improvement for the next reincarnations ! :)

Thank You Ni. I owe this life to you.


With Love,
BaBa Bee

P.S : I think I exaggerated too much about the discipline. Like all male species, i still feel that the best place for a wet towel is atop the bed ! :D

5 Years Later ... 

November 2013. 

Got Married, had a kid, Encircled the globe and got a tad bit wiser. 

Abandoned the blog fearing that competitors might be using this platform to track my progress (The fresh out of MBA jargons had taken over my life). Fortunately my better half and the kid slowed me down just enough to understand that Life is not all about wealth. The priorities now have changed to Health, happiness, Peace and Wealth - Exactly in the same order. (ok the health was a recent addition :p )

Touching  the midlife 30 meant that i gained enough wisdom to understand that customers buy because of mutual trust and relationships. Competitors tracking this would need the 9 years I  have invested in to catch up. I believe that should let me enough time to fulfill my ambitions and look at an early retirement to contribute to the society ! 

More about the subtle hints later ... :) 

Ciao
Beedee 
(The name still latches on)